No one is completely black or white, we all have gray shades, but where does this gray shade really exist ?? I tend to see mostly either the whites or the blacks. Here, friends don't confuse my color description with good or bad. Good and bad to some extent is pretty relative :) What I really mean here is that there is always a fine distinction between lot of things , the gray band is just too thin at times.. For example there is such a fine line in being assertive or rude, between arrogance or being independent, being practical or having expectations .. on and on and on....
How badly I wish to act in the most efficient way by keeping myself and people really close to me happy. But in many situations I end up being defeated in either one of the two goals. These are the situations where I tend to cross these fine lines of distinction.
Soooooo..... the million dollar question being how do I decide how to act ??
After lot of thinking I could come up with one primitive formula with the following variables - the other person, situation and your priorities. What I mean is that for any such situation
Assess the importance of the person, you need not really show your assertiveness when it comes to important personal relations .
Decide how important the situation is for you and the person involved. If some insignificant situation(according to me) is of utmost importance to someone really close I would not hesistate in considering doing it.
Third your priorities/attitude in life, because you cannot be happy compromising all your life.
It would have been much more simpler if these were binary conditions but to make our lives worse they tend to have probabilistic values. Still seems to be a good approximate solution. Have not done much testing on it but hope it will work :) Situation feedback will be taken care of. Am receptive to addition/deletion of variables so solutions with better computational complexity and efficient results are always welcome.
P. S : Don't worry , I am not doing much research work these days :) Have fun !!!
1 comment:
As we continue aging, there will be more situations that will make you sad. The time factor and the age factor starts playing as well. The parameter called ego starts working overtime.
If you ever noticed, it is always easier for kids to fight and become friends again. When they patch up, they forget all the traces of their earlier fight. That is the behavior we start forgetting soon. That is the best behavior formula I ever saw.
You seem to be working extra time on your research.. :-)
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